A Complete Guide to Having a Threesome: Positions, Insights, Tips


A lot of people dream about it, but few people dare to try it. We’re talking about a threesome. Let’s check out a couple of tips that will help you get the best of it and not turn this unusual experience into a disaster. Forget the prejudices and allow yourself to feel brand new sensations.

Why do you need a threesome? As you know, passion fades with time, and it’s a proven fact. If you’ve been together for more than three years, then you probably already understand what we’re talking about. And a threesome is one of the great ways to bring variety to your sex life.

what is a threesome

What is a threesome and what to do in it?

So, what is a threesome? Basically, it’s a sexual act that involves three people. Depending on your preferences and desires, you can choose one of two combinations: MMF sex (sex with two guys and one girl) and FFM sex (sex with two girls and one guy).

MMF sex

MMF is the simplest combination because this way a woman gets maximum pleasure, and you don’t need to put too much effort into the process. Here are the pros of MMF sex:

1) Two men can satisfy a woman much better than one. What happens in a threesome with two guys? A double pleasure. Well, for a girl at least. One of the most common fantasies of a woman trying a threesome involves her and two hot guys (or even more). She feels like a queen, being in the center of two men’s attention at once.

2) If one of the participants has experience in this type of sex, this method almost doesn’t require preparation. A woman needs to know that she can trust both partners, and everything will go great. Two men will always find something to do with a woman.

FFM sex

The FFM combination is much more complicated. High-quality sex with two girls is a team game when two partners focus on the third one. The pros of FFM sex:

1) It's beautiful. The sight of two naked women in one bed is delightful. Most men consider lesbian “games” arousing. There’s a reason why this topic is one of the most popular ones in the porn industry. Most women like it, too.

2) The FFM threesome allows for revealing female sexuality. According to statistics, more than 70% of women are bisexual or would like to try sex with a girl. Not all of them are ready to admit this even to themselves, and they’ll never get this experience. FFM sex is an excellent and safe way to explore this area of female sexuality.

what to do during a threesomeWhat to do during a threesome

If you’re in bed with two girls (millions of guys dream about it), you should understand that they’re not your personal sex slaves. You need to put a lot of effort to satisfy both partners. They don’t have to imitate lesbian porn at the same time. Some passionate caresses and kisses on the neck, shoulders, and ears would be enough. The girls can just hug each other while you caress one of them. This will turn on all three of you. If your sexual experience involves a man and a woman, be prepared for some competition.

If you’re thinking about what to do in a threesome to make it even more exotic, forget it. It’s better to avoid sex games, toys, and weird sexual practices. This situation is unusual enough, so keep your sexual fantasies to yourself.

Best sex positions for a threesome

A threesome is a bit more complicated than usual sex, as there are three bodies participating in the process at the same time. This isn’t easy from the point of view of physiology. These sex positions for threesomes will help all the participants enjoy the process.

MMF threesome positions

The intimate interaction of a girl with two men is slightly more limited in terms of positions variety, but it provides more opportunities to satisfy a girl with pleasure for both male partners. But men should be cautious, especially when penetrating the woman simultaneously, and be more attentive to the woman’s sensations and give her greater freedom of action. For example, it’s recommended to mix vaginal and anal sex only if the girl already has some experience in such sex, and men are sure that they can control themselves.

1) Double Doggie Style

How to do it: In this position, it’s important that both men control the amplitude of their movements, especially the one who’s ahead, and the one behind should hold the girl’s the hips so as not to push her too much. This position may seem easy, but it’s not. Although an experienced woman can deliver both partners a lot of pleasure, both physical and aesthetic, and enjoy the process herself.

The advantages: This is one of the classic positions for group sex: it’s a classic doggie style, but the second man standing in front of the girl, while she pleases him orally.

FMM threesome positions2) Double missionary position

How to do it: This is one of the most common threesome positions. Put the girl on her back. To make oral penetration easier, you can try to place her so that her head hangs from the edge of the bed and kneel down before her face. If the girl is afraid that she can’t combine oral sex with the vaginal penetration, make some adjustments to the position.

3) She’s in your hands

How to do it: If the woman’s weight is small enough, and both you and the second partner are strong, then you can try this interesting position: men stand face to face, holding the girl face up with her legs spread, with one partner holding her hips, and the second one supporting her back. The girl needs to put her head back and grab the second partner’s hips.

FFM threesome positions

1) Double rider

How to do it: You lay on your back (it’s better to put a pillow under your head). One of the partners takes the rider’s position, and the other sits on your face.

The advantages: Such threesome sex positions like this one allow all three partners to be as close as possible. Women also have the opportunity to caress each other or even turn their backs to each other if they want to. The latter option can be especially useful if one of the girls feels a bit jealous.

2) Voyeur

How to do it: A man and one of the women have sex in any convenient position. The second female partner watches the process and caresses herself. In this case, sex toys will be a useful addition.

The advantages: This is a good option for people who are having a threesome for the first time, especially for the girl who is invited to the process. This way she has the opportunity to warm up before fully participating in the game. Women who like to watch or a couple who gets aroused when someone is looking at them will fully appreciate this position.

3) Double penetration

How to do it: One girl lies on the other in a missionary position, and you penetrate each of the partners from behind.

The advantages: This position is great for women who want to caress each other. In addition to penetration, the man can watch them playing, caressing himself or one of the partners.

4) Double Doggy style

How to do it: Both women stand on their knees and lean on their hands like a two-person centipede. You penetrate one of them from behind while she is orally caressing the second partner.

The advantages: This is an excellent position for those who don’t like standard sex. Besides, if one of the partners is your girlfriend who wants to put as much distance between you and the second girl as possible, then this is the most suitable option. The main thing is to discuss it with both ladies and make sure that they are OK with it.

These are the best threesome positions that don’t require much experience. They will certainly bring some variety to your bedroom.

Wife wants to try a threesome: what to do

couple tries threesome​​So, your partner tells you that she wants to try it with two guys (or a girl) at the same time. How to handle this situation? There are guys, who will agree without any questions, while others may start questioning their loved ones’ loyalty and even break up with them. But both variants are wrong. First of all, you need to ask yourself “should I try a threesome?” Now, you should understand that every girl has thought about group sex at least once in her life, and if your wife actually told you about her desires, this means that the trust between you has reached such a high level that she feels OK with sharing such things with you. Good job. And now for some good news:

1) Your loved one is so sexually open to you that she sees nothing wrong with inviting another person into your bedroom. Not all men have the guts to do so despite that women are bisexual by nature, and a lot of them dream of their partners making the first step and allowing them to try a threesome.

2) If your wife wants to have an MMF threesome and tells you about it, she believes that you’re sexually confident. Otherwise, she won’t even try to talk with you about trying a threesome with another man. Most men don’t agree to try MMF sex, not because of jealousy, but because they don’t believe in their sexual abilities.

Now let’s see what you can do to handle the situation:

1) First of all, you shouldn’t shame her for such sexual desires. The moment your wife begins thinking that you shame her for what she said, she will probably share her desire with some of her friends or maybe even her lover. And you can be sure that she’ll never tell you anything again.

2) Don’t panic: just because your wife wants to try a threesome doesn’t mean that she will actually do it once you arrange it. We all have our fantasies, but most of them stay in our heads forever. In other words, most people (and probably you, too) have caught themselves fantasizing about different kinds of sexual experience ranging from illegal to simply immoral, and we would never, ever bring such experience to life, and, which is more important, we don’t do it. Alright, what if your wife really wants to try a threesome in real life? No worries! We assure you that she doesn’t need to do this, and if you treat her nice and stay calm, she won’t become disappointed in you, cheat, or break up with you. Besides, there’s one thing you can do to fulfill her fantasy partially.

3) You can make sure that your wife tries a threesome as a fantasy. So if she wants to play, let her play. For example, you can buy a dildo or a vibrator, and when you have sex next time, just turn off the lights and try to simulate double penetration. This will bring her a lot of pleasure. You can also act like a stranger in bed. Just blindfold her and have regular sex, switching “personalities” to make it seem like she’s having sex with two or more guys. This should be enough to satisfy her fantasy and spice up your intimate life a bit. Do it a couple of times a month.

4) If the previous option didn’t work, and your wife still wants more, it’s time for a serious discussion. As usual, a couple tries threesome only if both partners are OK with it. So everything depends on you.

In conclusion

Be ready for the fact that a threesome can end unexpectedly, or not happen at all. The success of the event will depend on all participants, which is why you need to pay attention to potential partners you choose. In any case, if you want to experiment – do it. And time will tell how you will remember your experience - with pleasure, laughter, or sadness.